Fr. Marty Kurylowicz’ Blog
Father Marty Kurylowicz, M.Div., M.S. is a Roman Catholic priest and clincial psychotherapist.
His blog, Fr. Marty Kurylowicz, was started to bring together factual data on human sexuality, beginning with Early Childhood Psychological Development, Growing up Gay and other related issues. The blog also provides an extensive list of links to national medical and mental health hospitals, institutes, professional associations and gay resources.
Recent posts cover the research of Dr. Sidney H. Phillips, whose work is significant in understanding the kind of harm caused to very young children who grow up to be gay and the effects it has for these children in their adult lives.
His studies, as well as those of Dr. Jack Drescher, Dr. Richard Isay and others bring to light the many problems and complications that children who grow up to be gay will encounter in their adult lives, when these children are raised in a social environment that has been influenced by harsh antigay social and religious norms. 
Fr. Kurylowicz’ ministry for children growing up gay began during Holy Week of 1997, when he told his parishioners, the people of Holy Family Catholic Church in Sparta, Michigan, that he was a celibate homosexual. At that time, Fr. Kurylowicz had served as pastor for 12 years. He had struggled for years with his homosexuality.
The announcement came shortly before he took an educational leave to study psychology at the University of Michigan and Madonna University. Then-Bishop Robert Rose took no action against Kurylowicz, saying his views were in line with Catholic teaching.
Because he grew up gay himself, Fr. Kurylowicz understood the kind of harm done to children when they come under the influence of social and religious norms that convey to be “gay” is socially unacceptable and evil.
Since then Kurylowicz has spoken out to raise awareness of violence against gays and teach others homosexuality is not a choice but inboard trait. Church leaders still don’t understand that and contribute to gays’ poor self-esteem, he said.
“Kids as young as 4 or 5 know they’re different,” said Kurylowicz, “they grow up with this pervasive guilt which sabotages their growth and motivation.” 
The church needs to discuss sexuality more candidly and heed Jesus’ teachings more closely, he said. “Jesus never said one word about homosexuality,” Kurylowicz said. “He said, ‘Be careful not to hurt one of these little ones of mine.'”
